The ultimate empty nester guide

So you’re in an empty nest… now what?

For years they were under your wing. You remember their first steps, the first words ever uttered. The years spent driving them to extracurricular activities, the school drop-offs and pick-ups. There were late nights spent helping with homework, the meals shared together. You made sure they were healthy, happy, and well. And now they’ve flown the nest so to speak.

You’re happy for them, of course. You’ve prepared them for this moment. Raised them to be independent and happy and ready to take on the world. But still, you can’t help but grieve a little bit that your baby is all grown up.

First of all, feeling upset about it is completely natural. There’s no need to be ashamed or suppress the feelings. We’ve put together the ultimate empty nester's guide for this next chapter of your life:

  1. Do something nice for yourself – if the house is feeling a little too quiet for your liking, go out and treat yourself to a nice cup of coffee or even go for a walk around the park. Prefer to stay in? Now is the perfect time to relax and unwind with a cup of tea in bed and the TV all to yourself. Whatever it is, make sure it’s something that you’d really enjoy doing.
  2. Get some rest – no more early mornings preparing breakfasts or sleepless nights filled with worry. This is the season of sleep ins, late nights, and rest. You deserve that extra hour (or two) in bed!
  3. Set a new goal – is there a hobby you’ve always wanted to pursue but never had time for? Perhaps a new dream you want to turn into reality? It’s never too late to get started!
  4. Reconnect with loved ones – maybe that means more time spent planning date nights, hosting regular dinner parties for your friends, or getting to know your neighbours even more but surrounding yourself with people you care about is a great way to make this new chapter a lot less lonely!
  5. Find creative ways to connect with your kid – it’s hard not seeing them everyday and you can’t help but wonder how they’re doing. Are they eating well? Getting enough sleep? Are they happy? Fortunately with today’s technology, it’s a lot easier to stay connected. If you’re on social media, why not follow them on their profiles? That way not only will you get an insight into their world, but you can also easily share with them what you’ve been up to. Not big on social media? Why not start a family group chat?

It’s okay to miss your children and to feel lost without them. Some parents have even described being an empty nester as having an identity crisis. Your kids may be out of home now but you’ll never stop being their parent. And while they discover themselves and their place in the world, it’s time for you to enjoy your freedom too!